# From Sexless to Sexful Life

This article is written from the first person point of view.

## My story

I used to be a **Genetic Asset**, I have received multiple ITPs from multiple high-value females.

The girl I'm currently with has offered multiple ITPs before. Ironically, I am in a sexless relationship with her now.

I have been successfully re-categorized from a **Genetic Asset** (sexual priority) to a **Provider** (resource utility).

I have been domesticated.

Only one way out: I have to bite the hand that feeds me (she already called me on it).
She won't be the "master" anymore.

I've asked my self:
Would I rather live a sexless life, as a provider, and wait until a genetic asset makes a cuck out of me?
Or would I rather fight tooth and nail to get back the sex I deserve?

*Theory*: [The Great Proxy](../concepts/the_great_proxy.md).

## Identifying the Bottleneck

I can't improve everything at once, but I can improve.
And following the theory of constrains, I'm equiped with the knowledge to understand what I have to focus on.

### Self Assessment

I've created and answered this self-assessment in hopes of create self-awareness and facilitating the identification of bottlenecks.

Perhaps the most important bottleneck is: too much time isolated, in front of a computer.

| Question | Provider (1) - Asset (10)  | Notes | 
| :--- | :--- | :--- | 
| I have the body of a Genetic Asset, not a Provider | 3 | I used to go to the gym and work hard. Not anymore. |
| I have the public visibility of a Genetic Asset, not a Provider | 1 | I used to be on the news. Not any more. |
| I now see as many girls as a Genetic Asset, not a Provider | 1 | I used to, but not anymore. She got jealous, and no point in flirting if I can't fuck | 
| I exhibit the indifference of a Genetic Asset (No Chasing) | 5 | I usually don't chase. |
| I share my problems with male friends, not my female master | 3 | Sometimes I do | 
| I ask for help from my male friends, not my female master | 1 | I ask her for help, even with the company | 
| I pivot to my Mission during friction instead of engaging in emotional labor | 1 | I argue with her | 
| I have a mission that is more important than her approval | 7 | She doesn't respect that I want to go abroad and have multiple threesomes | 
| I have a schedule that is more important than her approval | 3 | No defined schedule, but she doesn't respect my time. |
| I have an independent schedule, like a Genetic Asset, not a Provider | 1 | No defined schedule |
| I have space that is 100% mine where she is not authorized | 3 | She does not respect my office space |
| She offers sex more than she offers help | 1 | *Never* offers sex | 
| She offers sex more than she requests help | 1 | *Never* offers sex | 
| I am biologically capable of risking the relationship to maintain my Autonomy | 1 | I was fearless, not anymore |
| I go out at night alone like a Genetic Asset, not a Provider | 1 | I don't | 
| I have Genetic Asset friends, not Provider friends | 1 | All my friends are providers |

Don't plan like a provider. Act like a genetic asset.

ACT MEANS NO COMPUTER.

### Get Ready for the Impact

Mate Guarding will come. Realize you are the "Asset"; the selector will likely react with intensified "taming" attempts, jealousy, or manipulation.


## Appendix: Couple Therapist Analysis 


The couple underwent therapy with a professional couple conselour.

When requested, the therapist refused to provide notes on the couple, however, through a laywer and a formal GDPR request the couple was able to access their notes.

These are the notes taken by the therapist after 5 sessions. For privacy, names have been replaced with Alice and Bob.


### Therapist notes

After discussing with both patients, it was clear that through multiple interactions, Alice has shaped Bob's behaviour, perhaps unwillingly, but certainly.

Phase 1:
* Bob was honest with Alice about his need for non-monogamous relationship
* Bob shared his mission with Alice: being location independent and living of investments, which we very succcessfully achieved
* Alice and Bob had multiple sexual encounters. In most Alice was the initiator.
* Alice promised Bob multiple threesomes and that she would implement the same mission as Bob.

Phase 2: 
* Alice started isolating Bob from interacting with other females. This was done through multiple mate guarding strategies:
    * Punishments when he did 
    * Creating urgent/emergency events when she knew Bob was meeting another female.
    * Telling Bob he was evil because all he tought was about sex and threesomes
* Alice started imposing her routine onto Bob, with the argument of having a fixed company schedule
* Alice started minimizing Bob's mission by:
    * Saying living off investments is not "a real job"
    * Saying being location independent was for "kids, not serious people".
* When Bob tried pursuing his mission Alice used guilt and shame:
    * "Oh you're making that much from investments? How does that make your life better uh?"
    * "You just want to go abroad because you're running from yourself"
* Sabotage:
    * Bob was suspecious Alice was cheating on him. In a day of weakness Bob checked Alice phone and found out she was not cheating on him, but she was:
        * Flirting with two other single men
        * Talking with her friends about preventing Bob from going abroad and how to control his sex drive.
    * When confronted during our session, Alice blamed Bob saying:
        * "You made me do it! All you think is about sex, going abroad and your investments!" (diminishing his needs)

Bob is highly empathetic by nature. Seeing Alice sad or upset triggered strong feelings of guilt and remorse in him, which made him especially vulnerable to Alice's emotional reactions. This empathy, while a strength in many contexts, became a lever Alice could pull — whether consciously or not — to steer Bob's behaviour.

In summary, Bob was too pliable, and Alice, perhaps unknowingly - most likely uncounciously - manipulated Bob into becoming someone he isn't. 

Phase 3:
* Bob is fighting again for his mission and sexual needs
* Alice is offering major resistance and threatening to break up

My recommendation:
* Alice needs therapy for her own confidence.
* Bob needs to get back his independence and be ok with Alice suffering. 
## AVOID AT ALL COSTS

### Getting dragged into arguments.